Men are Chauvinistic in Relationships with Women.

"It is the best for all tame animals to be ruled by human beings. For this is how they are kept alive.

In the same way, the relationship between the male and the female is by nature such that the male is higher, the female lower, that the male rules and the female is ruled.

The courage of a man is shown in commanding, of a woman in obeying."

Yes, Aristotle said this. Philosopher and scientist, a student of Plato and teacher of Alexander the Great.

He said this long long ago, when the reality probably justified this view. In the early ages when the outside of a cave was roaring and wild animals were snarling and drooling to have you, a human being, for supper, a man’s role was crucial for a woman. He was the strong one, the defender, the hunter, the supplier. A woman’s role was to please her man, to obey him and to worship him. She would not survive without a man.

For centuries this pattern was carried without doubting its essence. For centuries a woman was lower than a man, she was considered a man’s shadow, his belonging, his servant, a miserable creature without soul, brain and feelings. Good for nothing else except obeying and worshiping her man (just read again Aristotle’s chauvinistic phrase).

Time changed a lot in a woman’s role in life, but men would not agree to loose their priority so easily. They would do anything to keep their leadership in a family. If a woman is lucky, it will be easy for her to keep her man on a pedestal, granted that a man is the strong one, the defender, the supplier.

It is not true that a woman wants to fight with a man for a priority. A woman in general wants to be just a wife and a mother, she wants to cherish and praise her man. She wants to be protected, cared for and provided for. If a man cannot do it for his woman, she would step up and do the same for her and her children.

The problem is that contemporary life puts up so many challenges in front of men and women that a woman grew up into a self-sufficient personality able to provide for herself and for her children. When a man and a woman both work and share the role of supporters and providers, they should also share the house work and consequently should share the respect. The man is no longer number one just because he happened to be born with reproductive organs outside of his body and not inside.

The question arises, why is a woman supposed to put a man on a pedestal and worship him, if she herself is doing the same things a man was supposed to do for her.

There was a German saying that nails it straight- “A woman should know 3 Ks- Kinder, Küche, Kirche (children, kitchen, church) An average woman would comply with this, granted that a man will do the role of a supporter, a provider.

If you check up dating sites, like plentyoffish.com, or cupid.com, or any other dating site, you will find out that women are writing about themselves that they are very gentle, domestic and respectful. Men are writing that they are mature and family orientated.

Here are random qualifications of men how they present themselves:

• I'm a very goal oriented individual, mature and sophisticated.
• I will do anything for my soul match.
• I believe in togetherness and mutual respect.

Not a word about priorities, not a word that a woman should put a man on the pedestal and worship him as number one no matter what.

When do men change? When do they reveal that male chauvinism in them?

Those men usually summon the Bible to support their chauvinistic inclinations. Their first argument is that God first created a man and then a woman. Well, there is only one answer to this- it is very important to make a perfect creation, so God first exercised, creating a man (tried first), and then, after trying his hand, he really created a woman, without mistakes. Actually, my memory hints to me that the first God’s creation was a unisex creation, male and female (Male and female he created them in the image of God(Genesis 1:26-28)).

OK, no problem, if a man for the sake of complementing his own ego wants that a woman surrenders to him as to the leader, he should made a ground for this. This simple.

A woman will be just happy to praise her man, she will put him on a pedestal easily, if a man is providing for her. But if they both are playing equal role in providing for the house, there is no priority. She is exactly the same important as a man, period.

Chauvinistic men are usually those who are insecure, not sure in themselves and that’s why they need constant artificial proof that they are most important.

Guess what- not always. So, men should better make it straight for themselves and get it real- life is not that simple as religion would teach you.

Deserve your woman’s respect, but don’t demand it for granted.

.... IS IT FAIR TO ACCEPT MEN'S PRIORITY OVER WOMAN WITHOUT QUESTIONS?